face to face

Brian and i are heading to grand junction this week to meet with the foster mom who has his 3 nephews, we hope we will get a better understanding of her intentions when we meet with her face to face. We are having a hard time deciding what to do, it is a big decision and we want to do what is best for these 3 boys. That's the hard part......doing what is best for the boys. We have a lot of questions and not a whole lot of answers right now, and the main caseworker has never returned our calls. I am angry at the caseworker and frustrated with mesa county social services, i am trying not to let these feelings cloud my judgement of what is best for the boys. They don't seem to be following procedures and are not treating me and brian with respect or consideration, it makes me question how they have handled the whole case. We have been told several times that our names have never been mentioned but recently the one person who is returning our calls told us that they did have our names but knew we had a placement at the time. They are supposed to contact all family members and try to place the children when they are taken away from their parents, they have never contacted us. Unfortunately this is a mistake on their part and now we can come in and ask for custody of these children. We really don't want to move these boys out of the home they are in if it is a good home and if the foster mom is willing to have contact with the biological family. We feel very strongly that there needs to be some sort of communication between the boys and their parents, even when we had our lil' love bug we felt that she would always need to have some sort of communication with her mom. Every case is different and there are many forms of communication; e-mail, phone calls, a p.o. box, visits, etc. My family is very important to me and knowing where i come from is a great source of pride...... i would never want to deny any child of that connection and that feeling of pride in knowing their heritage and roots. I guess that will be a big deciding factor in whether we decide to take these boys in. We also want to make sure that this foster mom really wants all three boys and is not just taking in the older two so she can keep the youngest one. I hope we will be able to get a better idea of every one's character and intentions when we meet them face to face.