big decision

Big decisions need to be made today.............we have so many questions and it will be nice to get some answers. My main concern is doing what is best for these children. It is hard, trying to sift through all the opinions, anger, biases and emotions behind all the answers we are getting to our questions. Emotions are running high and that is understandable, the state has filed the motion for termination so we have 20 days to come in and ask for the children to be placed with us. Is that what we want to do? AAAHHHHHHHHHHH, i don't know. We have been certified for 3 years now as foster parents and we have been willing to take in one child under the age of one, how will i handle 3 boys ages 4, 3, and soon to be 2! I have had a little girl in my life for over a year, and she was a girly girl!! 3 BOYS, how will THAT change my life? I keep going back and forth, i am hoping that once we can get into a room and meet these parents we can decide if their home is a good place or if we would rather have them in our home. I know that both biological parents want the boys in our home, they are concerned that if the boys stay in the foster home they are in now, there will be no contact. They know that if the boys come with us, we feel strongly that the contact with the biological parents is important to the emotional well-being of these boys, we understand the need to know who and where you come from. I am also struggling with the fact that if we do decide to take these boys in and eventually we adopt them, it will be harder to establish the boundaries between us and the biological parents because they are family. It is something that will have to be understood right away, and something that will probably be an ongoing struggle. So, here we are. We had one meeting this morning and we have 4 more scheduled for this afternoon, we are hoping that by the end of the day we will be able to make one of the biggest decisions that will affect these boys lives and possibly ours too..........