staying overnight

Lovebug's mom had a great time with lovebug at the boulder creek festival. We all had a great time but i think it was a special day for lovebug's mom. She is alone right now. She is not with her boyfriend. Her oldest son is with her mom. Lovebug is with us. Her younger two are with her boyfriend and his family. She is living with a friend who, due to his work, is never home. She has been diagnosed with depression and i am not sure if she is taking her medication regularly. She is lonely, has no money and not much going on.
When we were at the festival, biomom told lovebug that she had a swimming pool at her apt. complex. Lovebug was so excited to hear this and immediately told biomom she wanted to live with her. UGH! Then biomom told her she could come stay the night sometime. Okay. So mom called the next day(yesterday) and said she wanted lovebug to spend the night and she wanted to pick her up in a couple of hours. Of course we had no choice and packed a bag for her to go.
Let me tell you, i had to pack EVERYTHING! I packed her clothes, pajamas and a swimsuit. Biomom asked me to send some toys because she didn't have any(i packed very few toys)and then called back a little later and asked if she could use a carseat because she didn't have one! REalLy?!?!? I felt like i should pack her some food too(i did not), just to be sure lovebug had enough to eat.
So biomom texted me a photo of lovebug by the pool yesterday about 1:00. If you remember, the weather yesterday was cool and windy, definitely not what i would consider swimming weather. hmmmm...maybe i'm just too overprotective. Maybe boulder's weather was significantly different than here - doubt it!
I asked biomom when she would bring lovebug home and she said she would see when lovebug wanted to come home. I called her today and biomom said they were having a good time and i asked when she was bringing lovebug home. She asked lovebug if she wanted to come home or if she wanted to stay another night and it sounded to me like lovebug said she wanted to come home. Biomom said that lovebug was having a hard time making a decision and she would call me about 3:00 after they went swimming and took a nap. I was so nervous.
Well, biomom called about 1:00 and said that they had just finished swimming and lovebug asked if we were there yet, mom asked who? and she said lisa and brian. So she was calling to let us know that lovebug was ready to come home. Biomom said she didn't have a ride till later in the afternoon and i offered to pick up lovebug or they could wait till she had a ride. She asked lovebug and she said she wanted to come home now. YEAH!! So off brian went to picke her up.
What a horrible night. I was so stressed, nervous and worried. I didn't know if she would come home. Apparently biomom can't make decisions. So our lives are all left to the will of a 3 year old. Seriously?!?!
Brian called me and said that he was going to stop and get her something to eat. Sounds like she hasn't eaten since breakfast. It was 2:15 when he called(maybe i should have packed food!)
I really hope biomom realizes she cannot take care of lovebug. She doesn't have the resources and i just don't feel she has the patience or ability. She has no clothes for her, no car seat, no toys, no bed, no toothbrush, no shoes, no hairties, hairbrush, food........... I could go on and on. I know she loves lovebug but sometimes love is JUST NOT ENOUGH! She doesn't have the support of family, she has no car and she is done with the only help she was getting - social services closed her case last friday and we are done dealing with them as far as lovebug goes. (a whole other post!!!) She doesn't have the type of personality to make and keep appointments, she can't seem to follow through with paperwork and she doesn't like to make decisions. I don't see her being able to get a place, job, child care or any other basics she needs to keep lovebug safe.
We'll see when we get another call asking for an overnight. I pray mom will get some papers signed soon. It can't go on like this much longer. can it?