reality

Well court did not go the way we wanted but it did go the way we expected, with a few surprises. We were shocked to hear the county attorney and dhs say they supported the idea of the boys being moved to our home, we thought this was something they were strongly against because of the bond the youngest boy seems to have with the foster mom. They actually came out and said that they feel the long term benefits of placing the youngest in our care would far outweigh the short term distress it would cause him. They have no problem placing the older two boys in our care, which is good to hear, especially since they feel all 3 boys have a good bond with each other and no one wants to split them up. Bio mom and dad both asked that the boys be place with me and brian, the only one strongly against this was the g.a.l. but even she seemed to change her tone by the end of the hearing. The county attorney, dhs and the gal all 'seemed' willing to place the boys in our care but want to see how the boys do with us for extended periods of time. The judge ruled not to place the boys with us at this time. We will return for a hearing on sept. 3rd and at that time he wants an update on how the boys are doing with us in visits. They want to make sure the boys will be able to bond with us and that we will be able to meet their needs. So.............i guess we will be making weekend trips to grand junction for the next month. The drive (and expense) is not something i am looking forward to making every weekend but is something we will have to do. It is what we sort of expected, we weren't really confident that the judge would make a final decision today, it's just been our experience that these things tend to be long, drawn out affairs. I am confident that the boys will do well with us in the visits and the caseworker who volunteered to do the visits is someone who will accurately report what she sees during her observations. I hope the boys do great with us and are eventually placed in our home but if they don't go well, if they can't form a relationship with us, or if we are not able to meet their needs; it is probably better if they are not placed in our home. I am excited about getting to spend time with the boys and getting to know them better, it sure is going to be a busy month!


I will blog more about the actual trial tomorrow, i am tired tonight but will be better rested to give 'the details' in the a.m. Night All!