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So the court hearing lasted forever on friday, the court hearings we went to in boulder were like 20 minutes but this one took all day. It started at 10:00, we took a lunch break from 12:00 to 1:30 and didn't get done till 4:00! Several people took the stand, including brian. (luckily i didn't have to get up there) Brian did a great job on the stand, they asked a lot of questions about our ability to take care of the boys, our history, our relationships and what we knew about the boys. The gal was tricky and really seemed to twist or take snippets of what people said to make it sound bad. She was tough! We were surprised by the county attorney saying they were willing to have the boys placed with us, they just want to see more visits. They called both the bio dad and mom up to the stand and they made it very clear that they wanted the boys placed with us. They did a good job on the stand. The caseworker made it very clear that they did not want the kids to go home to either parent and what needs to be determined is whether the boys will be placed with us or the foster parents. We were also surprised to hear that the caseworkers present at the first visit we had with the boys noticed that the foster family made it very hard for me and brian to interact with the boys. From what we heard in the hearing, the foster mom is being very difficult and it sounds like dhs is making sure she understands she needs to let us have our visits. They've had talks with her and they sound frustrated with her. She needs to step back and allow us to have these visits and see if there is a possibility for the boys to develop an attachment to me and brian. Brian and i walked away with an amazing ego boost. Everyone had nothing but nice things to say about us, when talking about us in the visits, with the boys, our home study, feedback from our caseworkers, mesa county caseworkers, the bio parents and even the judge. It was nice to hear but it will not mean anything if they do not let the boys come with us. The last caseworker who got up on the stand seemed really frustrated with the foster mom, this caseworker was brought in to work with the foster mom in the home because the foster mom was expecting too much from the older boys and wasn't aware of normal behaviors and development. She has contact with the foster mom on a weekly basis and with the boys on a monthly basis. Luckily she is the caseworker that volunteered to be present and observe the visits we have with the boys. She seems very fair and i trust that she will accurately observe the visits and if they are going good she will make sure everyone knows and understands this. If she reports the visits are not going well, i trust that she will be telling the truth and not twisting what she sees. Overall the court went well. We can only hope that the boys do good in the visits with us in the next month. If they go good, i think the boys will be placed with us. If they don't go good, they won't be placed with us. Let's hope that is the determining factor. It can still go any way and it is all up to the judge, he can do whatever he wants.