meeting the boys

We had a couple of visits with the boys this last week. Being able to meet the boys and see their interaction with the foster family and with each other made me believe even more that we have made the right decision in trying to get the boys into our home. The first meeting on thursday was actually really overwhelming and hard to have much interaction with the boys. The foster mom, foster dad and foster grandma were there as well as 4 caseworkers, needless to say i was overwhelmed, i can't imagine how the boys felt. The second visit went much better and i am happy we were given the opportunity to have the 2nd visit. The interaction between the boys and the foster mom and grandma was insightful, they are both overbearing and quite negative in their dealings with the children. The middle child is very timid and was scared to go on much of the playground equipment. He kept trying to go on different equipment and they kept telling him 'no, you can't do that', it was really very heartbreaking to see him go to try something and then to be told he couldn't do it without even letting him try. I could see him lose confidence every time they told him he couldn't do it. It makes me very sad for him, they did this to all 3 boys but mostly to the middle child. They were both very negative and not much encouragement and positive words were used when the boys were trying to play. The grandma was overbearing and possessive with the youngest boy, she wouldn't let him walk without her holding his hand and she didn't let him come to close to me or brian during that first visit. The boys have a very strong bond with each other. They played nicely together and wanted to play with each other. If one boy did something, the other two were right there trying to do the same thing. They encouraged each other and i could see they had a strong bond. They are all 3 so cute and we enjoyed the time we were able to spend with them. I am hoping we will hear good news when we go to the court hearings on friday.