Psalm 101:5

Have you ever been at a function and noticed people looking and talking about you, or worse yet, talking about your children. Ugh! That is one of the situations i get to deal with on a regular basis. It is annoying. It is frustrating. It makes me angry. It is one of those situations that i am not sure how to handle; what to do or what to say to the person. If you have suggestions, please let me know. I don't know what to say at that moment, should i say anything in that moment? I did not want to bring attention to the situation because my children had no idea what was going on and i didn't want them to know. I am at a loss....
Anyway, i noticed a couple looking in our direction, whispering and talking and then i noticed they weren't really looking at me but more in my kids direction. I made eye contact with the person, didn't even blink an eye, just kept on whispering. Now, i couldn't hear what was being said, so i couldn't say that they were positively, most definitely talking about my kids but i would be shocked if they were not.  I find it very disrespectful and incredibly rude. I understand that i have put a lot out there, especially with this blog but i don't do this blog to give people fuel for gossip. I do this blog to give people insight. I want people to understand the heartbreak of infertility, the struggle and incredible sacrifice it takes to foster and the obstacles we have to overcome when adopting and dealing with bio-families. I don't want you to use my honesty and openness as fuel for your cruel and ignorant gossip. If you have questions, ask me. If you have concerns, talk to me. If you want to talk about my kids, come to ME!
Having said that, i really don't think this person who was talking about my children has ever seen or read my blog. It was more of a situation where they had heard things from someone else and felt it their responsibility to fill in other strangers about my children's unfortunate beginnings. It is disgusting. My children have been exploited enough. My children have been hurt enough. My children have been knocked down enough. You do not get to continue this cycle of abuse to my children! I will not continue to associate with people who do not respect my children. They have gone through more than any child should ever have to endure in their short lives and they are thriving in spite of it! I will not let ignorant people who have no heart for their struggles bring them down.
My children are doing amazing. They are lovable, caring, beautiful and smart kids. They make me laugh, warm my heart and bring me and my husband incredible joy. My children are thriving in school, learning by leaps and bounds. They have shocked their teachers by exceeding expectations. My children love to dance, listen to music and enjoy coloring. They love playing outside in the snow; building snowmen and making snow angels. My children laugh loud, play hard and run fast! They love to give hugs and have THE best smiles. They enjoy books, know their letters and letter sounds and are starting to read. My children can sing, love to build tall castles and enjoy being pirates and princesses. They snuggle with their stuffed animals at night, need night lights and look like angels when they sleep. My children are kind, heroic and brave.  If you want to talk about them, talk about THAT!!

Whoever slanders their neighbor in secret, I will put to silence;
whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, I will not tolerate.